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Towards the whole "pronouns hurt people's feelings" topic. Am I REALLY the only person on the planet that thinks people are becoming far to sensative? Nearly to the point that they shouldn't leave their little home bubbles in the case that a bird chirps next to them in a way that sounds like a mean word. Maybe, JUST MAYBE, we're becoming a little TOO coddling and people need to learn to deal with simplistic shit like words. And yes, I've been insulted and made fun of. I got over it. So can you. from Anonymous




Supposedly invented by the Chinese, there is an ancient form of torture that is nothing more than cold, tiny drops falling upon a person’s forehead. 

On its own, a single drop is nothing. It falls upon the brow making a tiny splash. It doesn’t hurt. No real harm comes from it. 

In multitudes, the drops are still fairly harmless. Other than a damp forehead, there really is no cause for concern. 

The key to the torture is being restrained. You cannot move. You must feel each drop. You have lost all control over stopping these drops of water from splashing on your forehead. 

It still doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. But person after person, time and time again—would completely unravel psychologically. They all had a breaking point where each drop turned into a horror. Building and building until all sense of sanity was completely lost. 

"It was just a joke, quite being so sensitive."

"They used the wrong pronoun, big deal."

"So your parents don’t understand, it could be worse."

Day after day. Drop after drop. It builds up. A single instance on its own is no big deal. A few drops, not a problem. But when you are restrained, when you cannot escape the drops, when it is unending—these drops can be agony. 

People aren’t sensitive because they can’t take a joke. Because they can’t take being misgendered one time. Because they lack a thick skin. 

People are sensitive because the drops are unending and they have no escape from them. 

You are only seeing the tiny, harmless, single drop hitting these so-called “sensitive” people. You are failing to see the thousands of drops endured before that. You are failing to see the restraints that make them inescapable.

Well said!

Do your best to be thoughtful with your words and actions. You have the opportunity to bring light into someone’s life today!

“My teenage son just came out to me. As a devout Christian, I believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. What will his future be like? Is he truly a sinner in God’s eyes?”


- Question submitted Anonymously and Answered by Broderick Greer 

Broderick Says: 

Dear Devout Christian,

Your scenario and question embody the uncomfortable corner many conservative Christians find themselves in today: a theology of human sexuality that doesn’t match their lived experience. If you would, please take a moment and imagine your son on his first day of school: his mini backpack, sneakers, and lunch pail. Remember the hopes you had for him, the joy you felt toward him, and the delight you had in him. In that watershed moment of development, did it ever cross your mind that your son might be a sinner in God’s eyes? I highly doubt it. If anything, you probably thought something like, “God, thank you for the gift of this child and for the life and goodness and beauty he exudes.”

As you savor your son at age five, ask yourself what has changed about him for you now. Does he bring you any less joy, awe, or pride? Does the disclosure of his sexual orientation chip away at your fundamental feelings of affirmation and hope for him? If so, your heart is worth searching. God does not think any less of your son because of his sexual orientation. If anything, your son’s coming out opens up a new dimension of access to God’s infinite, limitless love. Your son is not a sinner in God’s eyes. Your son is a masterpiece of divine handiwork who deserves your merciful attention. If you continue to give him the space to explore himself in honest ways, you will help lay the foundation of a hopeful, generative future for him.

As far as marriage being between a man and a woman, I agree—in part. I know many straight, married couples. However, I also know many married couples of the same-sex whose relationships engender mutuality and joy. A same-sex couple who have been together for 15 years are housing me for the summer. They are hospitable and generous in every way possible. They ask me about my day and if I need anything. For me, this summer, they are fleshing out Jesus’ command to love the stranger. If they are sinners in God’s eyes, then you need to change your definition of sin.


Another Devout Christian


Broderick Greer was reared in Texas, went to college in Tennessee, and is now a master’s of divinity student at Virginia Theological Seminary. He enjoys jogging, traveling, Beyoncé, politics, and vanilla milkshakes.

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